Journeying with Those of All Faiths, Philosophies & Spiritual Paths

Shea Darian, M.Div.

Each time you grow, a part of you has to die a little. Rest assured, with this death, you will become more than you are.

~ Shea Darian, from Doing Grief in Real Life

My Ministry Experience

Minister & Worship Artist

As Minister of Worship, Minister Through the Arts, and Youth Minister, I have designed and led contemplative and contemporary worship experiences, and revitalized old ones. With participants three to ninety-three, I mobilized and directed worship teams in liturgical leadership, drama, reader’s theater, and liturgical dance, striving to create participatory worship experiences that offer an element of surprise and inspire meaning, hope, healing, and a sense of belonging.

Chaplain & Spiritual Care Provider

As a chaplain and certified spiritual director with four units of Clinical Pastoral Education, I have offered pastoral care and spiritual support in home, hospital, parish, retreat center, and interfaith settings. During the Covid-19 pandemic, I am offering spiritual care online to support those suffering grief during this difficult time of loss and isolation. Click the link below to learn more about these offerings.

Click here for Healing Circle Spiritual Care Brochure 

Family & Grief Educator

My work as a parent educator for over twenty years gave birth to three parenting books on family spirituality. As I found myself ministering to parents seeking healing for themselves and their children, this work inspired me to become a spiritual director and grief educator and theorist. I created the Model of Adaptive Grieving Dynamics, published in the journal, Illness, Crisis & Loss, Vol. 22(3) 2014. My book, Doing Grief in Real Life: A Soulful Guide to Navigate Loss, Death & Change is forthcoming (2021). See my parenting books and CDs at www.sheadarian.com.

Doing Grief in Real Life

by Shea Darian

A Soulful Guide to Navigate Loss, Death & Change

Like hope or love, grief is as common as rain in Pensacola, but we humans collectively know so little about it. I aim to change that.  

Doing Grief in Real Life: A Soulful Guide to Navigate Loss, Death & Change is intended to make learning about grief and grieving a growth-inspiring, life-shifting event.   

The book translates my new paradigm of the grieving process – the Model of Adaptive Grieving Dynamics (Illness, Crisis & Loss, 2014) – into a personable, story-rich, family-friendly guide for everyday grievers and care providers like you and me. Readers describe the book as enlightening, engaging, and even uplifting!

For me, Doing Grief in Real Life is not just a book. It’s a mission.


Words of Recommendation

“We’ll get through it together”

“It is what it is” is frequently heard. Shea Darian would answer “We’ll get through it together.” Shea is insightful about human behavior. Her life experiences have seasoned her spirit; her studies have sharpened her mind; her writing experience has developed her clarity of expression.”

Rev. Howard Schenk, DMin

“I trust her completely”

“Simply put, I would give her my highest recommendation. I would hire her to be on staff with me; I would want her to visit my loved ones or me in the hospital; I would gladly be a member of a church where she was the pastor. I trust her completely.
Listen to her for she is of God.”

Rev. Paul Whitlock, The Church of the Palms

“The depth of Shea’s compassion”

Shea has been an integral part of (our church) ministry, creating a Doing Grief in Real Life program for members in need of grief healing.  She set up small group, confidential, Healing Circles which met via Zoom.  It was in one of these circles that I experienced the depth of Shea’s compassion and understanding of the grief process.

Sandy Znetko

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